You see, I relied on alcohol for thirty-years, and my dependency made it impossible to know who I was as a woman in the middle of life. I was scared that my life would be one big buzz/drunk fest and that I would erase my existence.
My son was twelve at the time I quit on August 11, 2013. I drank at every birthday party, holiday, and any other time I could work alcohol into his childhood celebrations.
I avoided taking pictures with my sweet boy because I couldn't handle seeing myself; I ran from myself for years.
I made it a point to exercise as (a lot) when I quit drinking because I needed an outlet for my frustration and anger and stress.
Also, I wanted to be able to feel confident in pictures and videos with my son as he became a teenager, so he remembered what I looked like of God's sakes.
At 45, I was going through perimenopause and had all of the experiences that the change of life brings about. I had hot flashes, mood swings (understatement,) heart palpitations, breast pain, headaches, brain fog, and the list goes on.
Midlife women have kids of all ages; we have careers, aging parents, empty nest's, relationship problems, illness, job loss, financial stress, and f**ked up body image.
Removing alcohol from the big picture of life is not only the best thing I have ever done for myself, but it is also essential to aging and living a long, healthy, happy life for us all.
If you are a midlifer and you've been drinking for years, or you just started because of all of the life experiences mentioned above, I ask you this; is alcohol helping you or hindering your big picture?
At six years sober, this I know for sure, no matter how much wine I consumed, alcohol never helped me progress in life. Not for my son, my husband, my family, or myself. I thought that drinking was the be-all-end-all, but I was wrong.
If you are struggling with staying on the road that you are on and taking the way less traveled, I encourage you to look at living alcohol-free as a new life, one filled with excellent adventure. You won't miss out on anything if you quit drinking, but you might if you don't.
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