Life Before and After Getting Sober

with Clare Pooley

Is getting sober scary for you? Is moderation not working?


My guest on episode 166 is the incredible Clare Pooley who shares her experience with alcohol, her attempts at moderation, and some of her reasons for quitting that you will definitely relate to.  

Clare started drinking as a teenager to help her feel more social and struggled with alcohol for decades.  When she was 46, she quit drinking and started an anonymous blog, “Mummy Was a Secret Drinker”, resulting in an amazing community to support her and others struggling.  Since getting sober, Clare has published two books, “The Sober Diaries” and “The Authenticity Project”, and connected with people all over the world by sharing her story.   Clare knows first-hand how scary it can be to quit drinking, but after taking that step herself, Clare is so much happier and has become an amazing role model for the sober community.





Clare Pooley graduated from Newnham College, Cambridge and spent twenty years in the heady world of advertising before becoming a full-time mum. Realizing that her ‘wine o’clock’ habit had spiraled out of control, Clare started writing a blog, Mummy was a Secret Drinker, which has had nearly three million hits.

Her memoir, The Sober Diaries was published in 2017 to critical acclaim. Clare’s debut novel - The Authenticity Project, was inspired by her own experience of exposing the rather grubby truth about her own seemingly perfect life, and is being published in twenty-nine territories in 2020. Clare’s talks include a TEDx talk - ‘Making Sober Less Shameful’, a talk for Radio 4’s Four Thought, and numerous podcast interviews. 

"I got to the point where the fear of carrying on drinking overwhelmed the fear of not drinking"

Clare Pooley

Topics Discussed

  • Clare's story with drinking
  • How alcohol is a drug 
  • Using humor as a tool
  • How alcohol fuels anxiety
  • How Clare tried to moderate her drinking 
  • Being a mom today 
  • Shame around quitting drinking
  • Being overwhelmed with fear and shame
  • How Clare was able to listen to her body more after she stopped drinking 
  • Clare's anonymous blog and how it helped her and countless others in her first year of sobriety
  • Clare's writing process



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