I thought it was possible to drink forever, but completely impossible to be sober forever.
If you are holding yourself back because the word forever is freaking you out, I understand how you feel.
Are you fixating on the fact that you have to quit drinking forever or that it's forever going to be so difficult because you quit drinking.
It doesn't have to be the forever fixated mindset. You're going to get more flexible with this, and you're always going to figure it out.
So I have just a few tips for you if you are a gal over 40 and you're putting a lot of pressure on yourself, first of all, I know how you feel.
I did this for a really long time and I was thinking ahead. I was putting the cart before the horse, really, because I wanted to figure it out. We all want to feel confident in this.
I had no idea what I was doing back in 2013, I had drank for 30 years. So I was thinking, what am I going to do at my son's wedding? He was 12. I was thinking that far ahead.
Please take the pressure off of yourself. You're going to be able to flow. More easily. Let's say that. And you're going to have all of these Epiphanes and these feelings coming up.
If you're starting out on this journey, you're doing something that's really challenging and I'm so proud of you.
And then also you are going to figure it out and you have to remove that feeling of, I have to do this forever. I don't even use that word anymore. Let's toss that back into the fairytale land, right?
Instead say I'm doing this right now, say this is just for right now. I am sober today. I'm going to be okay. I am figuring this out. This takes time and there's no time limit on this.
There is not time limit for sobriety.
Give yourself a lot of grace, a lot of love because I'm sending you a lot of love. And know that you are going to figure this out and just keep going, just keep going. Okay. And it is just for right now. I hope this helped you today say hello to me. Tell me what you think and let me know if I can help you.