This is the cover art for 'Six Steps to Saying No Kindly' an episode of the To 50 and Beyond Podcast. Lori Massicot, the host, is smiling while sitting on a couch. She is wearing a baby blue cardigan.

Episode 224

Saying No is a learned skill, and it's not easy! Most of us fear missing out on something or feeling guilty or worried that we are hurting people's feelings by turning down invites.

We may even feel worried that if we say no even once, we will never be invited again or feel like other people will think we aren't capable of doing everything - especially in your workplace.

By saying no to taking on too much work or to a dinner where you know you will be triggered to drink and don't want to go unless you're drinking or saying no to a holiday obligation — you are saying YES to yourself and what you want and need.

In this episode, I share six steps to saying no kindly from a book I recently listened to called At Your Best: How to Get Time, Energy, and Priorities Working in Your Favor by Carey Nieuwov.

 

What You'll Discover:

  • Why obligations aren't good or bad 

  • How being an "obliger" effects your ability to say no 

  • Why it's important to say no to things you don't want to do 

  • How to say no kindly using the six step strategy outlined in At Your Best 

  • How to figure out what you want, and need to say no to 

 

Resources Mentioned:

At Your Best, by Carey Nieuwhof 

The Four Tendencies, by Gretchen Rubin

Gretchen Rubin website

 

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