I can not go back in time, I wouldn't want to, and I'm definitely not sharing this post because I feel like I'm going to relapse. I'm writing this to share with women in the middle of life who are struggling to make sobriety stick.
I'm here for you. I know how hard it is to make the decision to quit drinking, so this is my rewind for you to share what worked, and what didn't after I quit drinking.
On August 11, 2013, I didn't know anyone else like me, a woman on the brink of a breakdown trying to escape life through two bottles of Chardonnay in one sitting.
I started drinking in 1982; alcohol was literally my lifeline.
I was scared and clueless when I announced (to myself) I can't drink anymore; I have to quit. But how?! As I stood over the sink pouring out my sweet (pricey) Chardonnay, I cried like a baby!
My first thought was, I will not give in, and if I do, I will go to AA.
Let me tell you, I...
Chaos is a complete disorder and confusion; it mayhem, disorganization, Chaos, and disruption in midlife. I say Chaos has no place in the middle of life or sobriety.
2020 has been a whirlwind. From the pandemic to the murder of George Floyd, and racial injustice happening every time we turn around, we live in a world of disarray.
To control what we can in our lives and unplug from negative energy and behaviors and people who add madness to our life is a must right now.
As I decided to record an episode about removing drama and Chaos, I came off of a chaotic experience in my life. This experience added to the stress to 2020, now that it's over, I feel as though I can breathe better, think better, and create more freely.
If you are trying to come to terms with your drinking in the middle of life, you are in the right place. Drinking isn't the same as it used to be, and your mind and body are changing, can alcohol co-exist in midlife?
I was a go-all-in drinker. From the time I took my first sip at fourteen to my last sip at forty-five, I pounded beer, wine, and champagne; lot's of time all three together.
I tried making rules only to drink red wine, not my beloved Chardonnay.
I tried drinking only on Saturday even though Sunday was my most favorite day to get drunk. Also, Friday.
I tried to convince myself that I didn't have a "problem" and that everyone drank.
I tried believing my excuses and justifications, but they were no longer convincing.
I tried to make "alcohol...
Changing careers and her relationship with alcohol to pivot midlife is the topic of Episode 121 of the To 50 and Beyond podcast, with Juju Hook.
Juju Hook, consultant, coach, and speaker. Juju shares how her drinking was showing up in binge drinking, seeing an addiction coach, and how he helped her change her relationship with alcohol, taking naltrexone to curb her pleasure from alcohol and drinking.
Juju talks about how she went through a crisis in her late forties and made the decision to change her future by pivoting into a new career as a coach, consultant, and speaker.
Juju shares how to build a brand with soul and purpose, and what it means to be a Prime Time woman, branding and social media and change your brand even if you don’t have a business, and social media tips for the PT gal
FOMO in the middle of life takes on a new meaning. The biggest question is not what you will miss out on if (fill in the blank) but what you will miss out on in life if you don't (fill in the blank.)
In episode 120 of the To 50 and Beyond podcast, I talk about the fear when I quit drinking and challenging belief's that alcohol is fun in midlife and how to lean into fear instead of embrace it to start living your desired life.
The inclusion of people of all races, sexual preferences, and people who don't have the physical capability to do what I can do. I don't want to ever take anything for granted - this year has changed me, but I don't know the realm of the change, and that's okay.
Inclusion coincides with the questions I have been asking myself to learn about my privilege and where I've...
Manifesting the life you want and deserve works! Think about this, you focus on bad stuff happening, and they happen, so why not focus on great things and make those happen too!
My guest on episode 118 of the To 50 and Beyond podcast is Jerilynn Stephens, author of the new book, The Five "F" Words to Manifesting Your Life.
Jerilynn has been consciously manifesting the life of her dreams for the last sixteen years. It was through study, practice, and patience that she decoded the keys to manifestation. During a particularly rough time of struggling with alcohol, she hit rock bottom and picked up a book that introduced her to the world of co-creating with the Universe.
Jerilynn talks about how you must figure out what you want to manifest your desires....
In episode 117 of the To 50 and Beyond podcast - I talk about the physical, psychological, and social effects that stem from a long period of alcohol consumption and answer a question for a listener.
Brace yourself for the answer; yes!
The apparent reason why is because alcohol is a diuretic, and it dehydrates you. It has both stimulating effects and sedating effects, so it disrupts your sleep - two of the biggest factors to looking older than you are.
You get up in the morning tired and try vs. rested and moisturized. I don't know about you, but I will take rested and moisturized any day!
Maybe you've had a bad day, a bad week, or a bad year, that doesn't mean you are in crisis mode. Let's leave the crisis back in the 60s and move into the present time, showing up as midlife women who can handle anything, especially a crisis.
The beautiful Valerie Albarda, founder of Midlife A -Go-Go joins me in Episode 116 of the To 50 and Beyond podcast. Valerie shares her journey through perimenopause, how she has learned to listen to her body, and respect herself, facing her fears to challenge herself, getting back into the workforce at fifty-five, and taking the crisis out of aging.
Recovery from alcohol addiction brings hope, healing, and a chance to start again. Jennifer Golden is living proof that you can change your life and change your relationships once you get sober. For a long time, Jennifer lived a life where every ounce of energy she went to drinking alcohol.
Jennifer's life revolved around when, where, how, and how much she could drink. But on August 12, 2015, she woke up, looked in the mirror, and said NO MORE. She joined the local gym and found that working out took her mind off of drinking. So she kept going every day. She is now 4 1/2 years sober, and the blessings keep coming! She loves to share my purpose in her story to help others who are suffering because you aren't alone, and we do recover.
Jennifer is a mom to a 12-year-old boy, works full time in the garbage industry, and is an independent representative for an Activewear company...
When I started the To 50 & Beyond podcast in 2018, I had a tagline that read: This Is Not Your Mom's Midlife. I wanted to start a podcast for women over 40 to talk about topics that are typically hush-hush like aging, menopause, weight, over-drinking, and so on. To put an end to stigma and stereotypes that say women are irrelevant over a certain age.
I've created a podcast that represents women in the middle of life because, let's face it, it's a challenging time, and it's a joyful time. I talk about the midlife umbrella and all of the topics that fall underneath like:
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